Today everything almost gets measured! Who has the most followers on Twitter, most friends on FB, best +/- on the ice, most goals in a year and so on!
Almost everything that get´s measured is a that is a result outside yourself. But the greatest has always worked on what they can affect to a 100 %, themselves!
John Wooden, a legendary basketcoach in USA once said, ” you will win when you play bad, and you will lose when you play great. It is not how it goes that matters, it is how you play everyday that counts in the long run”
Great line that show the importance of character & focus on what you can affect to a 100 % everyday!
To know what you do great and what to improve you can do this simple practise, either on a big case, a game or on a meeting.
Three times What
- What did I do great today at/on …….?
- What can I improve?
- What did I learn?
Now the crucial about this is that you can not answer an result or an tecnique.
A golfer can´t answer that his or her sving felt great. An CEO or an employee can´t answer a result, we raised our sales with 6 %.
Why, because we want to focus on what you can take responsibility to a 100 % and that´s yourself!
Focus is so rare this days of constant reaction on what is happening around us. We have an abundance of technology around us to help us communicate. But the simple art of looking the person in the eyes as we speak to one another seems rare this days.
The apps that are here to help us is great stuff, our challenge is to use it the right way and when it is the right time. We need to close the cellphones, Twitter, Facebook or whatever social media you are on so that our brains can rest and create.
Recreation is necessary, but wathing TV isn´t recreation, it is distrction and thats fine but it is not resting for the brain. Taking a walk in nature is.
So start being present, turn of the device once a day at least and be present. Rest your mind!
I have been away mentally from my website & blogg for a while. I needed to think things through about my direction with it.
I think this is a common trait that need to get done by a lot of people these days. I mean with all the stuff you suppose to do. Email, twitter, Facebook and so on.
How do you know you are heading where you want if you dont back off once a while?
Cleaning away both mentally and physically in our home and in my businnes is a great thing to do. Minimalism doesn´t have to be limited, it can be larger depending on how you see it.
So enjoy Easter and focus on the key stuff on your holiday weekend.
I while back i got an call from an CEO of an big Hospital in Sweden. She wanted me to have an workshop for her and an group of executives about leadership.
I told her that leadership is easy, just do what you say!
This is so very easy to tell anyone else what or how to behave then to the same things yourself. I do this every day, the thing is though, to develop you need to know yourself and your strengths and your growing opportunity’s. I believe that this is getting more and more rare these days. 100 years back you learned from the elders and their experience. It was less noice around you, there was time to think, reflekt and to learn to know yourself.
Take Benjamin Franklin for example, he developt 14 core things that he thought was crucial to succed both as an human being and in his career. He focused on one per month and rated himself on where he stood, so simple and so powerful.
An simple way to improve this:
1. Write down your 5 core values
2. Rate your self on these 5 on an scale from 1-10, 10 being worldclass!
3. Write down one specific thing or behavior to work on the following month on each value.
4. I month later, do the same thing over again.
This is an simple way to strengthen your self esteem and the way you see your self and how others see you.
Good Luck with your Personal Leadership!!
The last post, Money over Time with our kids created some debate. Perfect, that’s what i want. For it is when everybody is doing the same things we should be worried.
And that is just why i wrote the last post, Money over time with our kids.
Most people i know in Sweden and in other country’s are feeling stressed, they say they don´t have time, that it is so much to DO. Well i just ask then, are you spending the time in Doing stuff you love as much as possible?
I met a guy last week i know pretty well, i asked him how Christmas had been and when he is starting to work again after the holidays, his answer was, ” i am going back to the hellhole tomorrow” I asked why it was like that, his reply ” well, i got to pay the bills”. And well, we got bills most of us that we got to pay but, is everyone of those necessary?
I mean, back up for just 30-40 years when i was a kid just to get some perspective.
At that time we didn´t have most of the following things:
– gym card, we played and exercised in the natur or played sports
– washing machine, had time for washing the dishes
– microwave, better food??
– mobile phones, these are great if you use it right
– computers, see above
– two or more cars
– Wii, PlayStation or XBOX ( maybe one )
– travelled 2-3 times a years as many do
I mean, add a couple of those up and you got a lot of money. So if you want to create more time for yourself, take a look at your bills and see were you can take away some of them, maybe you can work less, invest or do something else with the money.
Give yourself a great day and spend your time wisely!