Solitude

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I have been away mentally from my website & blogg for a while. I  needed to think things through about my direction with it.

I think this is a common trait that need to get done by a lot of people these days. I mean with all the stuff you suppose to do. Email, twitter, Facebook and so on.

How do you know you are heading where you want if you dont back off once a while?

Cleaning away both mentally and physically in our home and in my businnes is a great thing to do. Minimalism doesn´t have to be limited, it can be larger depending on how you see it.

So enjoy Easter and focus on the key stuff on your holiday weekend.

Personal Leadership

I while back i got an call from an CEO of an big Hospital in Sweden. She wanted  me to have an workshop for her and an group of executives about leadership. 

I told her that leadership is easy, just do what you say! 

This is so very easy to tell anyone else what or how to behave then to the same things yourself. I do this every day, the thing is though, to develop you need to know yourself and your strengths and your growing opportunity’s. I believe that this is getting more and more rare these days. 100 years back you learned from the elders and their experience. It was less noice around you, there was time to think, reflekt and to learn to know yourself.

Take Benjamin Franklin for example, he developt 14 core things that he thought was crucial to succed both as an human being and in his career. He focused on one per month and rated himself on where he stood, so simple and so powerful.

An simple way to improve this:

1. Write down your 5 core values
2. Rate your self on these 5 on an scale from 1-10, 10 being worldclass!
3. Write down one specific thing or behavior to work on the following month on each value.
4. I month later, do  the same thing over again.

This is an simple way to strengthen your self esteem and the way you see your self and how others see you.
Good Luck with your Personal Leadership!!

 

How to create time for where you want to spend it

The last post, Money over Time with our kids created some debate. Perfect, that’s what i want. For it is when everybody is doing the same things we should be worried.
And that is just why i wrote the last post, Money over time with our kids.

Most people i know in Sweden and in other country’s are feeling stressed, they say they don´t have time, that it is so much to DO. Well i just ask then, are you spending the time in Doing stuff you love as much as possible?

I met a guy last week i know pretty well, i asked him how Christmas had been and when he is starting to work again after the holidays, his answer was, ” i am going back to the hellhole tomorrow” I asked why it was like that, his reply ” well, i got to pay the bills”. And well, we got bills most of us that we got to pay but, is everyone of those necessary? 
I mean, back up for just 30-40 years when i was a kid just to get some perspective.

At that time we didn´t have most of the following things:
– gym card, we played and exercised in the natur or played sports 
– washing machine, had time for washing the dishes
– microwave, better food??
– mobile phones, these are great if you use it right
– computers, see above
– IPads
– two or more cars
– Wii, PlayStation or XBOX ( maybe one )
– travelled 2-3 times a years as many do

I mean, add a couple of those up and you got a lot of money. So if you want to create more time for yourself, take a look at your bills and see were you can take away some of them, maybe you can work less, invest or do something else with the money.

Give yourself a great day and spend your time wisely!

Money over Time with our kids

I left of my little boy to preschool the other day. He was crying all the way down screaming and saying ” i want to be home , i want to be home with you and mom”

The feeling that went through my heart was like a knife. I promised myself that i will do all i can to create a life that makes it possible to spend time with the most precious people in my life, my two wonderful kids and my lovely wife!

Where is the world heading when we leave our kids to other adults to teach them their values, what is right and wrong and most of all, spend the majority of the day with my kids?

We choose money, Iphones, multiple cars, trips that is possible to take after we have borrowed money on our kreditcards to be able to go so we don´t have to be embarrassed when our best friends say their going where ever they are going.

A great Swedish singer/songwriter was well ahead of the time when he 20 years ago wrote, ” we got to buy ourself to death so we can work ourself to death, just so everybody can see us”  He is spot on!!

So from now on i will choose my family over money as much as i can, i will choose people over  money as much as possible, i still want to travel, i want great Mac computers, but i will choose the essential!

Make a choice today!